Signs of narcissistic mother traits and ways to cope

narcissistic mother traits

Narcissistic mothers take pleasure in pushing their children to succeed. If you are not succeeding, it’s because you are not trying. They never take the blame for anything that goes wrong in their children’s lives, because they have to be perfect all of the time!

If you do not become perfectly successful there will be hell to pay at home. When things do go right for them, they take all the credit.

Narcissistic mothers need to be in control at all times, which can be very difficult for their children who also want to spread their wings and fly. Don’t try it! You will never win. They tend to devalue those that stand up to them or don’t give in to every whim they have.

Narcissistic mothers will lie to their children about anything they can to keep them in line. This is because they are only thinking of themselves at all times and don’t care what it does to their children’s self-esteem or self-worth.

The following are signs that your mother may be narcissistic:

1. She always has to have the best of everything.

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She always has to look perfect and in control in front of others. She will embarrass her children at any chance she gets, to get herself noticed and be the center of attention.

2. You have a hard time getting her attention or love.

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Because she is so self-absorbed, it’s very unlikely that you will receive much in the way of parenting from her. If she spends time with you at all it’s only to show off your accomplishments and brag about them to others!

3. She criticizes you a lot.

If she is critical of your actions, choices and everything else about you, this is a sign that she wants complete control over your life! She wants to make sure that you don’t grow up to be better than her or more successful because then it will affect how good she looks in the eyes of others.

You may have always felt that your mother didn’t love you enough, which is normal. It’s very difficult to cope with this kind of parenting style though.

The following are ways you can improve the situation for yourself:

1. You need to recognize that this has nothing to do with you!

This is her issue, not yours. She may be jealous of who you are and what you’ve become because it reflects badly on her. Narcissistic mothers want to always be the center of attention so they can feel important.

2. Distance yourself from her!

You cannot be a happy person if you are around somebody who puts you down at every turn. She is not going to change, so learn to live your own life and don’t let her interfere with it anymore.

3. You can learn how to please yourself, instead of always trying to please others

This includes your mother! It’s time to focus on what is important to you and make it happen. You will be happier in the long run because of it.

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